Comments for OTC Mommy http://otcmommy.wordpress.com Just a Mommy on the Cusp of Something! Sat, 05 Dec 2009 21:30:09 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Count down to a yeast infection by asid boric vaginal yeast infection http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2007/11/05/count-down-to-a-yeast-infection/#comment-126 asid boric vaginal yeast infection Sat, 05 Dec 2009 21:30:09 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2007/11/05/count-down-to-a-yeast-infection/#comment-126 most of the women allergic to antibiotics when facing yeast infections most of the women allergic to antibiotics when facing yeast infections

]]> Comment on Home by Anna A. http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2009/02/26/home/#comment-118 Anna A. Fri, 27 Mar 2009 16:24:22 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2009/02/26/home/#comment-118 I just had to leave a comment -- I saw your post on PW's site and had to laugh. I have a 5 week old also. And I am having my own lovely feeding issues as well. And then I saw your post about the questions people ask. Milo is a little over 8 pounds as well... lots of similarities. My favorite question I get? "Is he your FIFTH boy?". Nope, must be your imagination. lol.... I just had to leave a comment — I saw your post on PW’s site and had to laugh. I have a 5 week old also. And I am having my own lovely feeding issues as well. And then I saw your post about the questions people ask. Milo is a little over 8 pounds as well… lots of similarities. My favorite question I get? “Is he your FIFTH boy?”. Nope, must be your imagination. lol….

]]> Comment on Adoption Saga by pateft http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2008/12/20/adoption-saga/#comment-114 pateft Tue, 06 Jan 2009 16:21:29 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/?p=243#comment-114 I am a birthmom, and have run the Finding in Florida reunion registry for 16 years. I've worked with hundreds of adoptees and birthmoms, and I'm here to tell you that Patty is not "blowing smoke", as you put it. Everything she told you about the birthmom experience was 100% true. I'd also like to add that although I don't know who Patty is, many searchers work for free, and are proud, as I am, that I've never accepted a penny for what I do. Good luck, and wishing you a happy ending. Pat Burns I am a birthmom, and have run the Finding in Florida reunion registry for 16 years. I’ve worked with hundreds of adoptees and birthmoms, and I’m here to tell you that Patty is not “blowing smoke”, as you put it. Everything she told you about the birthmom experience was 100% true. I’d also like to add that although I don’t know who Patty is, many searchers work for free, and are proud, as I am, that I’ve never accepted a penny for what I do. Good luck, and wishing you a happy ending.

Pat Burns

]]> Comment on Thoughts at 31 weeks by Hula Doula http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2008/12/29/thoughts-at-31-weeks/#comment-113 Hula Doula Tue, 30 Dec 2008 06:41:50 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/?p=266#comment-113 First off...we need to talk girl. I will call tomorrow sometime. If you have time I would like to catch up. WHAT AN EXPERIENCE. I don't even know where to start. I'll call...I'll call. First off…we need to talk girl. I will call tomorrow sometime. If you have time I would like to catch up.
WHAT AN EXPERIENCE. I don’t even know where to start.
I’ll call…I’ll call.

]]> Comment on Adoption Saga: 1st Phone Call Recap by Lisa Kay http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2008/12/23/adoption-saga-1st-phone-call-recap/#comment-111 Lisa Kay Sun, 28 Dec 2008 03:20:18 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/?p=263#comment-111 Wow. Wow. Wow! So exciting and scary. Honey, in the words you write about her final question to you, my heart breaks for you. I don't know what mine are anymore, either. Nor can I think of anything that would be fun, enjoyable, or pleasurable. Sometimes I feel like I deserve this misery. Others, I want to smash something and say, "Oh yes I do deserve some happiness, a little bit of fun, something!" Your bM will not be the balm for the wounds in your psyche, but perhaps she will be the first of many things that get you back on the path of living a life of joy with a peaceful heart. Again, I'm so tickled for you! Lisa Kay Wow. Wow. Wow!
So exciting and scary.

Honey, in the words you write about her final question to you, my heart breaks for you. I don’t know what mine are anymore, either.
Nor can I think of anything that would be fun, enjoyable, or pleasurable. Sometimes I feel like I deserve this misery. Others, I want to smash something and say, “Oh yes I do deserve some happiness, a little bit of fun, something!”
Your bM will not be the balm for the wounds in your psyche, but perhaps she will be the first of many things that get you back on the path of living a life of joy with a peaceful heart.

Again, I’m so tickled for you!

Lisa Kay

]]> Comment on Who is Soukii? by Lisa Kay http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/about/#comment-110 Lisa Kay Mon, 22 Dec 2008 22:09:03 +0000 #comment-110 I don't know how to e-mail you directly so I hope you don't mind me posting this question here. Would you mind if I post a link on Adoption Database to your blog entry "Adoption Saga" [re: being found by adoption searcher]? Or perhaps I could send a link or a brief summary via private e-mail to one of AD's veteran members? I may be dead wrong, but something about this story just doesn't smell right to me. [I used to be a Certified Public Accountant. Most of the curriculum is aimed at training students to become professional skeptics AKA auditors.] Please let me know via e-mail or via a reply on here. Lisa K I don’t know how to e-mail you directly so I hope you don’t mind me posting this question here.

Would you mind if I post a link on Adoption Database to your blog entry “Adoption Saga” [re: being found by adoption searcher]? Or perhaps I could send a link or a brief summary via private e-mail to one of AD’s veteran members?

I may be dead wrong, but something about this story just doesn’t smell right to me. [I used to be a Certified Public Accountant. Most of the curriculum is aimed at training students to become professional skeptics AKA auditors.]

Please let me know via e-mail or via a reply on here.

Lisa K

]]> Comment on Adoption Saga by Lisa Kay http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2008/12/20/adoption-saga/#comment-109 Lisa Kay Mon, 22 Dec 2008 21:06:53 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/?p=243#comment-109 Do not presume that Patty has nothing to gain. Unless you have checked her out thoroughly, tread with caution. And DO NOT GIVE HER ANY MONEY even if your presumed birth mother asks you to. I hate to be such a cynic, but last year right before Mother's Day two persons that I had "met" via Adoption Database were conned by someone who said that they had found their birth relative. In one case, the scammer went so far as to tell the adoptee that her birth mother was dead, but... good news, there was a half-sister. Since she was deaf, all contact had to be via chat or IM. The scammer "chatted" with the adoptee for a few weeks pretending to be the sister before finally going for the cash. [btw - Adoption Database is 100% legit and honest as far as I can tell after being a member for about 18 months. It's free and is just a bunch of adoptees and bMoms helping in each others' searches.] I agree with Joy2 - no need ruining YOUR Christmas [never mind your aFamily's] by dropping this bombshell on them.... unless you really need some advice and you believe that they can be more insightful and objective in advising you than anyone else. [Somehow, I doubt their ability to be objective because you are, after all, their daughter.] Find someone you can trust that YOU know to act as a go between at this point. Or just tell Patty "no thanks, not right now". Goodness knows you have enough change going on right now. Most of the birth mothers whose accounts I have read [on AD] are disappointed if their child rebuffs them, but they are all willing to wait until their adult child is emotionally ready and willing. First and foremost, focus on yourself and that baby right now. I wish you many happy endings, Lisa K Florida Adoptee Born Jan 1963 - Gainesville, FL ISO bFamily Do not presume that Patty has nothing to gain. Unless you have checked her out thoroughly, tread with caution. And DO NOT GIVE HER ANY MONEY even if your presumed birth mother asks you to.

I hate to be such a cynic, but last year right before Mother’s Day two persons that I had “met” via Adoption Database were conned by someone who said that they had found their birth relative.

In one case, the scammer went so far as to tell the adoptee that her birth mother was dead, but… good news, there was a half-sister. Since she was deaf, all contact had to be via chat or IM. The scammer “chatted” with the adoptee for a few weeks pretending to be the sister before finally going for the cash.

[btw - Adoption Database is 100% legit and honest as far as I can tell after being a member for about 18 months. It's free and is just a bunch of adoptees and bMoms helping in each others' searches.]

I agree with Joy2 – no need ruining YOUR Christmas [never mind your aFamily's] by dropping this bombshell on them…. unless you really need some advice and you believe that they can be more insightful and objective in advising you than anyone else. [Somehow, I doubt their ability to be objective because you are, after all, their daughter.]

Find someone you can trust that YOU know to act as a go between at this point. Or just tell Patty “no thanks, not right now”. Goodness knows you have enough change going on right now.

Most of the birth mothers whose accounts I have read [on AD] are disappointed if their child rebuffs them, but they are all willing to wait until their adult child is emotionally ready and willing.

First and foremost, focus on yourself and that baby right now.

I wish you many happy endings,
Lisa K
Florida Adoptee
Born Jan 1963 – Gainesville, FL
ISO bFamily

]]> Comment on Adoption Saga by joy21 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2008/12/20/adoption-saga/#comment-108 joy21 Sun, 21 Dec 2008 19:52:01 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/?p=243#comment-108 Oh wow, I really feel for you. You say you realize that this is something for you, and yet you write a lot about your mom's feelings. I am not being critical, I just know. Many adoptees, want very much to be good to our adoptive parents and take care of their feelings. I just hope you can find some support and validation to put yourself first in this situation, it is very personal, and very profound. Personally, I wouldn't talk to my adoptive mom at all about it. Remember, you didn't sign up for this, everyone else had a choice in your adoption, you did not, it is okay to put yourself first now. Oh wow, I really feel for you.

You say you realize that this is something for you, and yet you write a lot about your mom’s feelings. I am not being critical, I just know. Many adoptees, want very much to be good to our adoptive parents and take care of their feelings.

I just hope you can find some support and validation to put yourself first in this situation, it is very personal, and very profound.

Personally, I wouldn’t talk to my adoptive mom at all about it.

Remember, you didn’t sign up for this, everyone else had a choice in your adoption, you did not, it is okay to put yourself first now.

]]> Comment on Adoption Issues by Busy Mom http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2008/12/19/adoption-issues/#comment-107 Busy Mom Sat, 20 Dec 2008 03:44:26 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/?p=241#comment-107 Wow, I have no idea how I'd feel (am adopted, too). I know exactly what you mean about being afraid for your own mother. E-mailing you. Wow, I have no idea how I’d feel (am adopted, too).

I know exactly what you mean about being afraid for your own mother.

E-mailing you.

]]> Comment on Adoption Issues by lovestitches http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/2008/12/19/adoption-issues/#comment-106 lovestitches Fri, 19 Dec 2008 13:21:39 +0000 http://otcmommy.wordpress.com/?p=241#comment-106 Without knowing what it must feel like for you my advice would be to meet your birth mother. You can decide once you've met her if you want to maintain a relationship or not. If you decide not to then at least you'll have closure and she will too. It must have been a huge decision for her to give you up and back then birth mothers were given a lot lesssupport than they are now. Talk to your adoptive mother first too, make sure she's ok with it. Without knowing what it must feel like for you my advice would be to meet your birth mother. You can decide once you’ve met her if you want to maintain a relationship or not. If you decide not to then at least you’ll have closure and she will too. It must have been a huge decision for her to give you up and back then birth mothers were given a lot lesssupport than they are now. Talk to your adoptive mother first too, make sure she’s ok with it.

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